One of the biggest factors in a relationship includes how you handle or manage your time.
Yes, many relationships require effort, but they also require time – even when you don’t want to make time for them!
For example, if you are working on a project, but you really don’t like the person you work with, you still have an obligation to connect with that person for a certain period of time. And if you try to procrastinate by coming to work late or taking a longer lunch break than you should to avoid your workplace partner, then your actions could affect how the results of the project.
And it could affect your job status, you could be demoted, or worst fired! Then you’re missing out on money you could have earned.
In marriage, time management plays a major role in the success of the relationship. One of the areas where many women often struggle is in the area of making time for sex.
For one, sex is often not the highest priority on her list.
And for this reason, she will give her time to work, the children, church, family, and friends throughout the day. Then when it’s time for romance she’s tired, frustrated, and not in the mood for sex because she has spent her energy with everyone else.
Then her husband is frustrated because he feels trapped in a sexless marriage. But often the wife does not realize how important sex is to her husband or to the marriage relationship as a whole.
Then she wonders why her husband seems irritated, angry, and becomes unwilling to talk. She didn’t save energy for time to connect with her husband sexually.
- What do you do when you feel overwhelmed and your husband is frustrated about sex?
- What can you do when you feel overwhelmed, but there is so much for you to do with not enough time to do it?
- What can you do when everyone, (including your husband, the kids, your co-workers, and God Himself) is calling your name and you don’t know who to answer first?
Here are some suggestions:
- Get quiet for at least about 10-20 minutes
- Be still
- Ask God what things are important for you to do
- Journal and write these things down
- Do this for a few days
- Look at your journal to see what God has been saying over the past few days
If you feel you don’t have enough time to do this, I recommend getting up earlier than normal to do this.
It’s important for you to hear from God instead of making your own plans for the day.
Because you could be doing a lot of stuff that isn’t on God’s “To-Do” list. And if that’s the case, you’re wasting your entire day because all the things, (even if you feel good about them and yourself doing them), don’t matter if God did not assign you to do it.